Should I be upset or should I let it go?

Question

This is a little back story to my question so you can have a better understanding. Here is the thing, my sister loves to be the center of attention. She will tell you otherwise, but I know that she does.
My sister got married in 2007, I was engaged at this time. A friend of hers saw my ring and asked me about it. I told her what it was, end of story it didn't go any further than that, well her friend told my sister and no one else mind you. My sister flew off the handle yelling at me about how I was trying to steal her thunder, when I only told one person that had asked me about it.
In 2008 I got married, my sister was still bitter about what had happened at her wedding so she got pregnant. She went around at my wedding telling everyone how she was pregnant. I didn't mind really, I was excited for her but at the same time I knew she was being a b*tch about it.
Found out I was pregnant in April of this year, total accident, used condoms none of them broke, used spermicide, (TMI I know just bare with me), ect. I got pregnant anyway, I told my mom first, then I told my sister. I cried and told her about how I wasn't trying to steal her thunder, it was an accident, and that I was sorry. She said she didn't care. I was in the delivery room for my nephew and all seemed well.
She has been giving me her old maternity clothes, baby stuff that she isn't going to use, diapers her baby has grown out of, and a lot of other stuff.
I have a myspace page, and I wanted to decorate it with baby stuff. Like a countdown development calender, a baby background, stuff like that. I asked her for her opinion on some of it, and never got a response.
A couple of minuets ago I noticed her status "Jenna Honey-Need Ideas on how to steal back the Thunder from the prego lil'sis.. Hmmm? Divorce, bankruptcy, arson, blackmail. Give me some suggestions.47 minutes ago
Mood:skeemin "

I cried when I saw this. I'm not trying to steal the thunder away from her! I don't know if I have the right to be upset by this or if I should let it go. I'm not sure if its my hormones or if this is really really hurting me. What would you do, what would you say?
I know my sister will say something along the lines of "I'm just playing around, what are you hormonal?"

Answer 1

I think you need to distance yourself from her. Just because you're related doesn't mean you have to be best friends. It seems she is depressed in some way and she is just out to push you down all the time. You sound like a nice girl who cares about other people's feelings a little more than you should. You should try to care about yourself a little more. You're worth it :o) Best of luck to you.

Answer 2

Its ok.. You may be hormonal, but she's just being totally irrational. Your sister needs to learn that other people have great lives too! Just because you're younger doesn't mean your life should be any less than hers. And babies are a blessing! You shouldn't need to explain yourself! So I say, hey, get geeked out! You can grow people! Show it off, and have fun with it. You don't need her permission to have fun! Even if your not at all trying to "steal her thunder", you could use a little of your own every now and then!

I wish you the best of luck with your little one, and hopefully your sister gets over herself to share the joy rather than ruin it!

I hope i helped!

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Sounds like she really doesn't care about you. I think you need to do whatever you want. This is your first baby, enjoy it and yes you have every right to act upon this. Pregnant or not, she should be a friend and not an enemy. You should tell her that she is damaging your respect for her and she needs to find a way to fix it. Then walk away from it. People are unkind in this world but your family shouldn't be the ones causing your pain. Life is not a competition.

Answer 5

I think you have a right to be upset, but I also think you should let it go. She is being very immature. You just need to live your life the way you want. It doesn't matter if she approves or not. It doesn't matter if its her "thunder" or not. There is a saying that my husband an I have adopted "Do what you do." Meaning - take everyone else out of the picture and do what is right for you, your husband and your baby. Congratulations!



Do what you do!

Answer 6

get away from your sister! honey its obvious she is jealous and feels like you're better than her...she sounds depressed with low self-esteem so when she sees you? she somehow feels your what she wants in herself! don't feel bad sweetie keep your beautiful baby and never mind your sister she'll eventually get over it when the baby is born :] if not then brush it off hun and pray for her...really i am serious! she shouldn't be acting immature over her own sister and what she does, there's obviously jealously in that woman always has and always been.

Answer 7

I think you both need to talk and chill out. It sounds as if both of you have to be center of attention.