Sad and pregnant on Mother's Day, any advice?

Question

I know it sounds silly and spoiled of me, but I am pregnant with my first child and was secretly hoping I would wake up to phone calls from my parents and in-laws wishing me Happy Mother's Day, and a day full of spoiling from my husband. So far all I have gotten is a day full of work, cleaning, and my husband playing video games. I had to sneak into the bathroom to cry. No one, not even my mother/mother-in-law when I gave them their gifts, said a word about this being my first(kinda) Mother's Day. Is it wrong for me to be sad about this?

Answer 1

No, it isn't wrong and it is very understandable. I guess I just didn't think of myself as a mother before my first child was born, but seeing your message makes me sorry that I didn't do something for my daughter and daughter in law when they were pregnant on Mother's Day. Please let me make it up to you by telling you Happy Mother's Day!!!

Answer 2

It is sad about your mother. I am sorry for all your mixed emotions you feel. My mother has been gone for 8 years and I still miss her. She was not like your mother. She died at age 55 of melanoma skin cancer. I actually put my energy into my boyfriends mother. I wished her a Happy Mothers Day and I will call my Grandmother, my mothers mom. Do you have anyone else that was a mentor to you that you could thank and wish a Happy Mothers day? It won't take away the feeling of missing all that you have. You are a strong woman and I congratulate you on your bravery. Congratulations on your new baby to be..... I know you will be an excellent mother. You learned something from your own mother, what you would have liked from your mother that you didn't get. You will be an good Mommy to your baby. Happy Early Mother day to you the Mother to be. God Bless you. I have a suggestion that you could possibly volunteer somewhere where you feel like you are making a difference in others lives. It will also lift your spirits. It is sad your mother couldn't be a mother like you are going to be. Hugs to you.

Answer 3

I know how you feel about having high expectations for certain events and being let down because things didn't go the way you were hoping. I just had my first mother's day last year and I got nothing as well - and I had already had the baby! I would say it is a little melodramatic to get so worked up about it considering you haven't had the baby yet, but its hard to control feelings. Talk to your hubby and let him know how you felt and even though he might think you are being a little goofy, maybe he will remember next year that it is an important day for you. Happy Mothers Day. Good luck with the baby!

Answer 4

It depends how pregnant you are! Some people don't want to jinx things by wishing you a happy mothers day before the baby arrives.



I'm due today with my first baby & my partner organised a mothers day gift for me yesterday - I didn't expect anything as I'm not technically a mother YET! Being 40wks pregnant I had a couple of people wish me a happy mothers day but I wouldn't have been dissappointed if I didn't.



I don't think it's wrong for you to feel sad but just try to remember that they probably weren't trying to upset you, it just didn't occur to them that you were considering yourself a mother at this stage.



Happy Mothers Day for yesterday sweetie and congratulations on your pregnancy. =0)

Answer 5

It will be more special for you next year on your actual first Mother's Day. But you are still a mother even though your child is inside of you so... Happy Mother's Day!!

Answer 6

I am in just about the same boat as you - nothing from my husband, in fact we got into a fight about something stupid and haven't talked all day. My mom and grandma did call though - I just wished my hubby would have acknowledged it...oh well, now i don't have to worry about doing anything for father's day for him! I've been crying most of the day...it is not wrong for you to be sad about it...I'll keep you in my thoughts. Hopefully next year will be way better for both of us!

Answer 7

Nooo, its just that they dont want to make you feel bad by saying "happy mothers day" in case you are fed up about being pregnant still, and just want your baby out! Trust me, I am sure that is all it is!!!!! You have every right to feel sad, but if it makes you feel better, happy mothers day!!! and when you see your baby, you will be the happiest woman on earth!!! So good luck, and look forward to the joy of having your baby be in your arms...





HAPPY MOTHERS DAY MOMMA TO BE!

Answer 8

well, i don't really blame your husband. because a man becomes a father when he first sees his child and a woman becomes a mother when she becomes pregnant.



Happy Mother's Day =)

And next year, when your little one is here, it will feel more special.

And the years after that, even more special, because s/he will be making you gifts.





OK, maybe i'm not cheering you up, but I'm giving you something to look forward to! =)



Happy Mother's Day!

Answer 9

Yep, you are being far too sensitive and counting your chickens before they are hatched. As far as your mother/MIL are concerned they are just being mature about it and waiting for it to actually happen. When you've been around a while you learn to be patient. I understand you are excited about motherhood but you are not one yet! Wait til next year I am sure it will be very different.

Answer 10

some people don't think you are a mother until you actually have a baby sorry but happy mother's day

Answer 11

im so sorry.. im only 9 weeks preg and i got a card from my boyfriend saying to a wonderful mother to be!! im sorry some guys just arent very thought ful until u bring up the subject

Answer 12

Happy mothers day! :P

Answer 13

no. my mom and my grandma said it to me, and my dh. i am sorry. i didnt get a present or nothin though, but my dh is taking me out to eat next weekend for late mommas day. i am little over 7 months. i am sorry you had bad day, why not just say something to dh? he may not quite understand that it would upset you. be straight forward. blessings. HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!