Question:
wanting a baby? feeling jealous and broody? how to stop? - please read!-?
anonymous
2011-05-23 23:09:43 UTC
im almost 14 and my boyfriend is almost 16, and sunday we were discussing tattoos, hee already previously has said he's saving his neck to put my name on. i asked him what was with him and wanting another tattoo and he said once you get one you just start wanting more. i said, nope, when im older i want three or four tattoos. ----Boyfriend/husbands name, childrens names and a little star tattoo design or something.
dont think i'm just some little immature girl, could you please read and answer this treating me like an adult? i understand that most relationships this age will not last. But mentally i am older than my age. It is the same with my boyfriend.
He said, 'so you want my name, 'lindsay' :) and 'michael' ;) and something else?' the ';)' face is because he's a fan of michael jackson. we started discussing baby names and came up with 'lindsay may' and 'Riley' if we were to have two girls it would be 'lindsay may' and 'lilly-rose' if it was two boys, 'riley' and 'tommy'
Now, i know what your thinking. 'it wont last.' But some relationships this age do last, and like i say, we are mentally older. My mom and dad met when they were young and started dating, they are still together and very happy. So, please answer keeping in mind that we intend on this all happening, thankyou.
Later that night, he told me, 'I want one.' i asked him 'one what?' and he said, 'a baby. ever since we talked about it i cant stop thinking about it. I want to be the father of your baby. I'd love it. I want to be with you forever. I love you.'
I was out and all i seemed to see was babies and toddlers everywhere. Then, i was lay in bed and little future fantasy's kept playing in my mind. in one i was just with my boyfriend, another i was sat down waiting for him, i had to tell him something. then it went back to just me and him, and then it flicked to one where a little toddler girl was running over to me, bright eyes, rosy cheeks, grinning, dimples and all. she was beautiful. I scooped her up in my arms, looked up, and he was walking over to me.
Then, he made me tell him what I was waiting for… so I did, being very embarrassed about it said, ‘I was going to tell you I was pregnant… why did you want me to tell you that?’ he replied, ‘I wanted you to tell me because I feel absolutely f*cking amazing, I’m waiting to hear those words for real.’
We both know it cant happen now, what with not being accepted into society, our parents, our education, and we haven’t got our own place… we’ve decided on fouryears, when im 18 and he’s 20. then no one can stop us or say anything. But the broodiness and the jealousy wont go away and I want it too! Because I know we have to wait. How can I stop feeling like this? What to do?
He says if we would be accepted and I could catch up with my school work and we had a place then he would, we would, right now. But we both know we need to wait four years, we don’t have a choice.
Five answers:
anonymous
2011-05-24 01:14:58 UTC
You can want a baby all you like but they don't stay babies for very long. Do you want to, and are you ready to, be responsible for a whole other person's life and wellbeing? Its not just about a baby.
anonymous
2011-05-24 04:03:49 UTC
I have 3 kids and i had my first when i was 16. That was the worst thing ive ever done. Im not saying that i dont love my son but babies are hard to deal with. Remember once you have a baby, you're stuck with it. Try to focus on school work thats more important. I know its hard and i wish i had focused on school work but instead i had to look after a baby living off my mum. Trust me. Parent hood aint all it cracked up too be!. But just think. When youre older. You can have kids. Now though hun, youre a bit too young. I have to work at a really grotty place now as i didnt revise for my exams. I was to busy with a baby!!. Wait until you're married and sure hes the one for you before you drag a baby into it.

Good luck hun.:)
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2011-05-23 23:30:12 UTC
A baby is hard work trust me. I had a child at 15 and married at 16. We are madly in love still together and trying for our second kid.. so yes it is possible to be married young.. people did it in the olden days but now if it happens.. its a crime LOL in most people's eyes. I think wait till your 18 because if you guys really do love eachother you can plan it out.. and be 100% ready. and then have a baby because having a baby and getting married right away can be crazy at times. There will be fighting and thins you will have to work through.. together.. When your married your a team.. and when you have a kid together your a team. You have to put your child first.. and grow up.. finish school and go to college. It's hard work to do all at the same time. My husband and I have went through some much together.. but through it all we love eachtoher and will always love eachother. I say if you really love eachother wait it out get married then have kids.. You have to make sure your relationship will last because marriage is forever.. for richer or poorer.. through everything :)
anonymous
2011-05-23 23:23:24 UTC
You should think that babies are very hard to deal with, its a big responsibility. I have a 5 moths old baby boy and i just turn 20.... trust me its not easy... you should think about school and getting a good career so you can support your self. and if your boyfriend really loves you he is going to understand and wait for you.....



Good luck with your decision... Best wishes
anonymous
2016-04-30 12:00:02 UTC
You need to find a good man to take care of you n that can be a family man to create a family with let the man work n you do the wife thing like cleaning cooking and being a mother


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