Im not allowed to do anything ...please help me?

Question

Im 16 and my parents won't let me do anything! Im a muslim. My parents wont let me work due to mixing with men. i have no qualifications. My sisters were allowed to go to college and work but they got into some bad stuff and now my dad thinks that the same thing will happen to me. I feel as if nothing is happening in my life and i feel so angry when i see my friends doing something good in life when im not allowed to. I cry alot over it. i really need to get away from my family and do the things that i want to do for once but i don't think thats ever going to happen as i am not prepared at all. i feel like killing myself its that bad! please help me.

Answer 1

Somebody up there said "you will regret taking your life"; how can you regret something when you're dead?



Anyway, you're not alone in your predicament. A few of the Muslims I've known have bee in similar situations to yours, albeit not quite so horrible. Being sixteen means that you have your whole life ahead of you. Perhaps ask your parents what they would like you to do with your life, but not in an accusatory tone obviously.



You're probably not going to be afforded the opportunity to do the things you want until you're an adult and you're legally able to go and do the things you want to do without permission.



What I would recommend for the moment is that you find a skill; something you're good at like a musical instrument (or creating music electronically with your computer if you don't have access to an instrument), art, some subject in school -- once you have something you can excel at, you'll be able to find a career. Instead of feeling like your life is hopeless, give it purpose. Genuinely.



I'm really sorry to hear your life isn't so great. Things will improve, just give it time. x

Answer 2

Don't stress too much I'm Muslim as well. I know how it can get in a Muslim family but Islam doesn't teach you to do what he's done. It's culture.



If you talk to your dad about it again, it probably isn't going to help much, just going to be him screwing at you. I think the best thing to do is ask him to enter you into an Islamic course for women. Anything from learning Arabic to tajweed.



Then look at your options and get enrolled into a women's only college there is a women's only Islamic college over here in Birmingham. He can't really stop you from going if it's women only because the only problem he has with education is the mixing with guys, well there's your answer.



If you don't want to do the whole Islamic college thing, just ask for evening courses or something. Truth is he'll probably just going to say no but don't give up on life. Just work hard and be patience you'll get through.

Answer 3

your only 16. you have a lot a head of you in life. dont think about killing yourself thats not the answer. parents always want best for their kids. and your parents are only stopping you from mixing with men etc cause they had experienced some bad momments with your sisters. they are just scared and love you so much and dont want to see you do anything wrong. they dont hate you or anythiing its only out of love they are doing these are your golden days enjoy them as much as you can cuz when you are older and have those responsibilites that you yearn for now, you will miss these days

make yoru parents understand, gain there trust that you dont want to do anything wrong you just want to be a 16 year old just like everyone else

i was once in ur place i did so many things that i regret now and i wish i listned to my parents..

just remember ur parents are not against u and dont think bad for u....they w ill always think good for u....

ur only 16 they can't stop u forever....they know that too

just let your parents get to know u and gain ur trust thats the most important



i hope my answer helped

Answer 4

i believe some muslim families can be very very strict with thier kids, esspecially the daughters but dont worry about it too much, your going through what a lot of other 16 year old kids are. It may not feel like it, but your parents do love you, if they didn't they would let you do whatever you like. They are just looking out for you and believe they are doing what is right for you. explain to them how it makes you feel, your not silly and you wont go doing anything stupid, but you have to learn from your own mistakes.

peace x

Answer 5

Don't kill yourself. Talk to your parents sincerely. Don't yell or accuse them. Remember, they love you and you love them in return, and they think they're doing what's best for you. Don't take advantage of them though, that never works. If talking to your parents doesn't work, talk to your counselor or teacher and maybe they in return and speak with your parents. Adults often have a higher influence than teenagers. NEVER contemplate suicide. It's an easy way out of a dilemma. Life is hard, I will admit that, but you will regret taking your life. Please, don't add to the death toll.

Answer 6

1 As a Christian, myself, I would pray to God

#2 Stand your ground, and tell your parents what YOU want

#3 DO NOT kill yourself. If you feel suicidal, go to therapy where you can talk to someone, or join a support center.



Best.

-Jake

Answer 7

im a christian and i would pray it all away



do th same