At baby showers do/did the father to be attend as well?

Question

I have been to quite a few baby showers in my time. But I am confused, does the father to be normally attend? Or does just the mother to be attend? I know at my one baby shower since it will be at work, my hubby won't be there. But for the others, I kind of think he should be a part of receiving gifts as well. At a few showers I have been to the husbands have been there. But for the most part, just the mother is there. What did you do at your shower? Did the father to be attend? If he did, did he open gifts as well or just observe? Thanks :)

Answer 1

its traditionally for the father not to come...but i felt the same way as you so he came! well, at my baby shower, we talked, played a few games, opened presents, and by that time 2 or 3 hours had passed, so it was time for everyone to leave!! he just sat there next to me while i opened gifts, but i was happy he was there! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 2

My husband attended both my showers. He also attended my work showers. Being that a lot of showers are now co-ed, I think that for the most part the fathers do attend. With our first child, he did sit there with me when I opened gifts. But with our second, he just observed.



Both my showers were co-ed, so we did not have any games. It was more like friends and family getting together to have lunch, talk and watch us open gifts. They were not 'traditional' baby showers.

Answer 3

okay... this has been a sore topic lately with my husband and I.



My husband feels that baby showers are meant for women only at all times, and he seems to feel like he needs to be as far away as possible.



However the showers I have been to, the husband at least showed up for the presents opening, which i think is a good idea because they are gifts for his child too after all!



Anyways, i hate opening presents on spot with everyone watching you and I asked my husband to show up at least JUST for that part, but he refuses to have anything to do with it. I finally got him to say "maybe" but I doubt he will come. my last one he went golfing with my father instead.



Anyways, I don't think there is a definite answer to this, but its more of how your hubby feels about it...

Answer 4

My husband was at my baby shower. He invited some of his friends who's girlfriends were attending over and they stayed outside and did a barbecue. I did all of the gift opening and just showed him everything later that night.

Answer 5

This is my 3rd baby, and yes out of respect he needs to attend the showers. Of course minus the one at work. He doesnt have to play all the games with you,but he does need to be there to thank everyone... Good luck on your baby!

Answer 6

Usually the daddy dosen't attend unless it's a co-ed shower. He would feel pretty awkward at a shower with all women and honestly the daddies don't really care about the shower from my experience.

Answer 7

Alot of times the dads would not really want to go. I think now-a-days they have couple showers where the husband is present. My husbands work threw me a shower, and of course he had to be there. I would leave that up to your husband if he would like to go.

Answer 8

I am not married yet. But for our baby shower, Yes, my bf did attend and he had a role in the gift opening. He would pass me one gift at a time while I sat in a comfy chair. lol.

Answer 9

Most people try and make it a girls thing with out guys but there is nothing wrong with the guy being there and I think its a good idea myself they are also having a baby so that will help them feel closer to the baby they dont get to experince all like we do anyways.

Answer 10

Traditionally men didn't attend showers. However, if you want him there and he wants to be there, then there is nothing wrong with that. Just do it however you want.

Answer 11

if you want him there then ask him to come but for the most part it seems that its a girls thing so men dont tend to come that often. my sons father wastnt there for the party but came when it was over to load all the gifts!!!

Answer 12

Its up to you and your husband. Traditionally husbands do not attend, but now-a-days many do and its just fine. I have been to one where the husband was there and it wasnt weird or anything. My husband didnt attend mine, but he didnt want to.

Answer 13

at my baby shower men in general were able to attend...we had put that on the invitations men were welcome to attend also...it was funny watching them play the games!

Answer 14

yes the father can be there, he can help you open gifts too.

Answer 15

It's his baby too isn't it?