If my child laughs during spanking, should I use more force?

Question

If my child laughs during spanking, should I use more force?

Answer 1

nope, dont bother. if the child is laughing its not doing what its supposed to be doing (Discipline).



try taking their stuff. they HATE that.



for instance,



1) spanking never worked with one of my kids (the others yes) when my one son was little, if he was angry at me he would smash my stuff (only when he was mad [my ex was an abuser, so he learned all of that from him smashing everything]).



he would smash, then stand there with a firm look on his face, "ha ha" he'd say to me.



i finally went in his room and grabbed the prized bat mobile, and proceeded to stomp on it until nothing left. "ha ha yourself. not so funny now, huh? DONT do it again".



he never did it again. all of the talking talking talking with this kid and THAT was the cure. i wished i had figured that out years ago.





2) when my kids wouldnt use bike helmets i would pull out the tools and take off the front tire of their bike, then lock it in the trunk for one or two days. i'm not upsetting myself, i'll just take it. if they did it again, i would do it for a week.



3) i used to be stupid and take their whole video game set up; games, paddles, etc... until one day i realized one better. i would just walk in and take the JUST the paddles to the video games. i told them they could look at it all they wanted.



they replied 'but now we cant play it'



'bummer' was my reply. :)



4) when they would argue with each other (or me) and slam the bedroom door(s) i would just pop the pins in the door and take the whole dam door (LOL!!). yup. i just put it against the wall in my bedroom.



they would say "hey! thats MY door"

"nope, its mine... the room is still yours" i would say back.





see? why aggravate yourself... you can do far more damage by taking their stuff (they reach an age where you can reason with them and spanking doesnt work anymore). kids HATE when you take their stuff, and more then likely, usualy stop their crap.



yvette

mom of 4 and still standing my ground ;)



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Answer 2

You don't mention the age of the child. But spanking never helps. And a child who laughs in the face of it will never learn from the violence. If it is a toddler then do a time out. Set a very specific place for it and then make sure that you follow through. If you punish and then give in to the demand then you will never teach the child. You don't mention the behavior you are trying to change. But often the behavior starts with the parent and how the parent reacts to mishaps.

For instance: When my twins were a year and a half my mom watched them while I was at work. When I came home my mom was nearly purple with rage because they had drawn all over the hallway wall with crayons. Instead of flipping out I calmly looked at the wall and exclaimed how wonderful their drawing was. (mom's head was cracking open) The kids were delighted that they made a picture for mommy. So I sat down with them and examined the entire area and they sat beside me telling me about it. Then I got quiet...and put on a very sad face and told them that I was sad that I could not keep the beautiful picture they drew for me. "but why mommy?" because it is on the wall. Then I explained to them that if they put all their pictures on paper then mommy could keep them forever. They never drew on the wall again. Problem solved. But not knowing the age of your child makes it hard to offer suggestions.

Answer 3

I think spanking is a bad idea. Try watching Super Nanny on tv. It give you better punishments. Have your child sit in the corner for 2 minutes per year. For example if your child is 8 it would be 16 min. After that time go up to him and go eye to eye with him. Say "Do you know why you were put here?" Than say "I think you should say sorry". Hope it works.

Answer 4

Mine did that. The worst thing you can do to a child like that is to give them time-out. My middle child was quite a handful when she was younger and she laughed at spankings and mocked me. So we started putting her in the corner in a time-out chair for 5 mins and she just thought that was the worst thing anyone could do to her. You could try it.

Answer 5

Not necessarily. Some people happen to have opposite nervous reactions to stressful, dangerous or grievous situations. For example, some people howl with laughter if they are told that someone was killed or has died. Some have laughed all the way to the emergency room after breaking several bones in their body. Some people will roll on the floor laughing after watching someone nearly maimed. The laughing person isn't doing it out of glee...in fact, their opposite reactions often make them feel embarrassed. It's happened to me a few times in the past. Your child is probably laughing out of nervousness from the pain, embarrassment and the fact that he/she has disappointed you. It's not to irritate you on purpose.

Answer 6

He/she probably is getting too old for it. Just try a new form of punishment like timeout or whatever. You shouldn't use more force, you want to punish them, not hurt them. I don't really think spanking is effective for older children.

Answer 7

No. You lean towards abuse there. If they are laughing then there is something wrong. Try grounding instead. or give the spanking with their brothers and sisters watching. That will make sure they do not laugh. You might try baring the kids butt first too.

Answer 8

spanking dont always work, you should try another way of punishment like taking their favorite toy and tell them if they want it back they should ask for forgivness. but not in a harsh way because your children will respect you if you respect them. Dont use more force,you dont want to hurt them.you sometimes have to see things from their point of view to find a good punishment.believe me i been there, and im still there!!!lol

Answer 9

i would try altenate methods. if the child throws food at the table, they are done with dinner and get no more we put toys in timeout, take away tv time and outdoor time, and we have " the bad chair" she sits in when nothing else works. Talk to your shild about why these actions are not accaptable, and follow thru with the explained punishment. it will take a while to work, but once your child knows what will happen and you follow thru EVERY TIME then they will learn! good luck!

Answer 10

Spanking is a truly appropriate punishment meted out via a mum or dad or dad or mum to impart a lesson without inflicting injury. whilst a guy or woman hits everyone, it incredibly is lots of the time carried out out of the two meaness, self-protection (that's ok), or the egocentric anger of now no longer getting what they desire. Spanking isn't sexual to any quantity added than giving somewhat one a bathtub (which additionally is composed of touching). young ones are spanked on the butt considering the fact that it incredibly is a threat-unfastened self-discipline and not utilising a bones close the exterior of the pores and skin. I agree in telling young ones to stop first. it incredibly is whilst somewhat one would not give up, or breaks a of course understood rule that spanking turns into necessary. young ones were spanked for as lengthy as mum and dad have been having infants. it is because of the actuality that spanking has been widespread to artwork, as adverse to time-outs that have purely become sought after in the suitable 30 years or so (different than you think of youngsters are so plenty greater proper behaved on the 2nd, than they have been lower back then). Even different animals equivalent to cats and domestic canines swat (or chunk) their youthful. soreness is a uncomplicated instructor, and it incredibly is the mum and dad' interest to instruct young ones good behavior, practices, and attitudes. it incredibly is classic to weigh the disadvantages vs the rewards of doing what we choose. Spanking helps, greater beneficial than different punishments to conquer the organic urge to do flawed. somewhat one in the beginning up ought to suitable elect to obey her mothers and fathers because of the actuality that she is petrified of a spanking. over the years, obedience will finally end up a addiction. a toddler's habit is a mirrored image of ways properly the mum and dad have taught. often mom and pop could desire to make complicated alternatives to good misbehavior, risky attitudes, and to ward off destiny wrongdoing. young ones isn't granted the authority to spank. They an now no longer do away with different people's privileges the two. they are no longer in a position to floor mom and dad or stand them in the nook.

Answer 11

Please don`t use more force. Your child is rebelling against you and laughing to try to show you it doesn`t hurt even though it does. Try something else like a time out corner, taking away privileges, taking away a favorite toy or game that he/she can`t have back until he/she minds,take away TV, trip, or just something that your child really likes.

Answer 12

my cousin is like that but he gets what he wants and hit him every now and then. Also try to take away his favori te activities if spanking doe not work.

Answer 13

Spanking is not acceptable it is child cruelty with a "nice name". Your child does not listen to you and you are frustrated.



Since when is inflicting pain on a human being, particularly a defenseless child okay??? Stop it.



If you cannot alter childs behaviour through talking and appropriate discipline, you may consider a parenting skills course or the child and you BOTH attentind counselling.

Answer 14

NO SPANKING!! That is only teaching your child that violence is acceptable!

Answer 15

No don't use more force try something new.. take away activites, timeout

Answer 16

Maybe your child is picking up on what a laughable idiot you are as a father figure.

Answer 17

NO! YOUR CHILD SHOULD ONLY SEE YOUR HANDS AS LOVING NOT PUNISHING. FIND A BETTER WAY.

Answer 18

DUH.....apparently you arent spanking him hard enough

Answer 19

try another form of punishment, and maybe avoid some legality problems

Answer 20

try something else, Like, counseling