do you think people that don't have a neat and tidy home?

Question

Because they have children an excuse not to do it.I know i only have two one 8 month and a nealy 3 yr old .I try to have a tidy home VERY happy girl and boy no dirty washing or ironing and to look good for my hubby.I am tired at the end of the day but i want an good home happy and clean form my family.It such hard work now and again but don't you think it worth the effort.

Answer 1

Good on you. I had three children aged 1,2 and 3 and my house was always neat and tidy. Always had a cooked meal on the table for my hubby and i did gardening, sewing etc. There is no excuse for dirty homes.

Answer 2

There's a difference between a home being clean and sanitary, and being perfectly neat and picked up at all times.



It's important for children to live in an environment where they aren't at risk, and living in a dirty home is not safe. A home needs to be basically sanitary.



However, messes can happen really fast, especially with kids. I don't think there's anything wrong with the occasional little mess or things not always being perfectly tidy and put away. That just happens.



If you enjoy keeping house, awesome, be as perfect as you want. But a little bit of untidiness should not cause you stress or make you feel like a failure.



I think a home needs to be sanitary and not dirty, but if a house is a little cluttered and untidy but still within the limits of cleanliness and safety, I'm not concerned about it.

Answer 3

How very judgemental of all those people who said 'there's no excuse'!!! Well it must be lovely being perfect!!! Shame on you...it's women like you who make others feel inadequate when they are not!!!



I'm quite sure your house isn't dirty to begin with but if it's untidy them so what? Kids like making a mess...get the older ones to try and tidy it away and if you can't be bothered with the rest then sit down!!! If your kids are happy and mum is happy then who cares if you have a show home. I'm sure also that your hubby loves you even if you're not done up like a glamour model!!! Happy and loved...you need to chill out girl and watch your kids grow up not worry about whether you've hoovered!!! Remember you're passing your OCD habits on to your children!!!



Dianmond you sound like a top Granny!!! Happiness is most important!!!



Gemz well done you girl...much love to you and praise!!!x

Answer 4

Some people find it hard to cope with children and do all the house work. I myself am a single mum to a 3 an 1/2 yr old an a 3wk old baby i personally think that as long as the children are looked after and the house is not dirty who cares if you have washing to be done or a dish to be washed or ironing or toys left out my main concerns are that my children are fed, clean and looked after.

Answer 5

I have 5 kids, aged 15, 14, 12, 5 and 2.

I can't say that my home is ALWAYS tidy but I do try to keep it as clean and tidy as I possibly can, if I know someone is coming over I clean up but its not always easy.

Answer 6

I try hard not to judge, especially when you're talking about a working mom with young kids. It's a challenge to keep up with all the household chores in addition to caring for your young children for any mom, stay at home or working. I think as long as the house is clean one can't really expect that everything is going to be neatly in it's place and there is going to be no disorder at all. That's just not a very real expectation. I had one of those mom's who demanded absolute order and cleanliness in our home at all times when I was young. We weren't allowed to so much as have a shoe out of line in the closet. It was miserable for all of us kids. LOL I wasn't quite as bad when I had my own home and kids, but I literally ran myself ragged trying to be sure my house was always picture perfect. What a HUGE waste of time and looking back, I truly wish I had let some of the chores go and worried more about having fun with my babies!

Answer 7

As long as house is safe for a child, then it really isn't another person business if the house is dusty, or has clothes hanging around etc. Clearly if it affects the child's health or safety then it because an issue for child welfare. But beyond that it is none of anyone's business. True having a clean and orderly house is better than not. But also being debt free, etc- is better than not, but I don't want to start making silly judgements on anyone about things that don't have a direct impact on a child's safety.

Answer 8

I cut people slack. I can't always accomplish all I plan to and if it comes to giving more interaction to my baby or tidying things up immediately, I prioritize time with my baby. My house is pretty neat but not pristine at all times. Having grown up in a home with a single working mom with six kids, I know what messy really is. I'm not going to judge someone for having toys to pick up or laundry to fold.

Answer 9

I totally agree! I am a bit of a neat freak, but to me, a clean home is relaxing and peaceful, which makes my husband and I relaxed, which is good for our child! I try to make sure I don't neglect my child to clean, of course, because he is WAY more important. But it is nice to have a tidy home. My rule of thumb is to try and always have it neat enough that if someone stopped by unexpectedly, I wouldn't be embarassed. But it doesn't have to be spotless all the time, because that is unrealistic. And my husband appreciates coming home to a clean, peaceful home. I do think it is worth the effort!

Answer 10

I have 2 kids who are 7 and 3. My house is clean, i may have a few toys hanging around but i do like to have a clean home and my kids know to put the toys away once finished playing with them.



Having children isn't an excuse to have an untidy home.

Answer 11

my house is clean. i don't know about tidy though... i have a 21 month old son and i have a few friends that have children around his age who are always stopping by. i try to keep everything in order, but i am also trying to finish my bachelor's degree (graduating in september, yay!!) so my house is messy sometimes. but i always make sure it is clean.

Answer 12

My house is neat and tidy most of the time, I have bloody shedloads of ironing though....



As for the looking good for hubby bit, that sounds a bit 1950's housewife to me, and anyways I couldn't be bothered with that, I look good for me, thats all that matters!

Answer 13

I totally do! I am same way almost OCD with the house being tidy. there is nothing wrong with wanting your children to grow up in a clean and healthy enviorment. Plus it teaches your children to grow up with good personal and home hygiene. I think its not ok to let your house smell and be cluttered and raise children in that kind of home soo in my book your doing great and they will def be worth the effort!

Answer 14

sound like u don;t work? do you?



anyway, i try too...i hate mess and can't bear piles of laundry, ironing and dirty pots...but it's a constant never-ending battle!



edit - i work 3 days. i do everything practically and think my husband could do more to be honest. he's not been trained well by his mum - i expect my son to be an equal in his marriage when he gets married!

Answer 15

i look after my grandchildren 2 day a week. They arrive at 8am to a tidy house when they leave it looks like a bomb has hit it. Happiness is more important than trying to keep everything immaculate

Answer 16

I have eight children and my house is untidy from the moment they get up til about two hours after the last one goes to bed. Untidy? Who cares. But if its dirty? then thats a a different matter..............

Answer 17

doesnt matter what we do until all the kids are in bed our home looks like a war zone!

its clean but messy till bedtime

im pleased you have found a way for it to work but no idont think we use the excuse we have kids WE HAVE kids!!

Answer 18

Yes it is an excuse, i have to have a tidy home, but each to their own,

Answer 19

Everyone is different and you shouldn't judge.