Is it completely wrong to want a baby at 16 ?

Question

The desire is strong. I have been trying to tell myself that it's not what I need , and I know I need to be focused on my education. I should be just having fun as a teenager , but having a baby is all I ever think about. I see people all around me having babies and they seem to be doing pretty well. Maybe I am wrong ,seflish, and inconsiderate. I just don't know what to do about it.

Answer 1

I'm 19, and my kids are 2 and 8 months. Having one baby was hard enough but two kind of. . makes it harder lol. I didn't finish high school because they kicked me out when I found out i was pregnant at 16. Luckily, the babys father stuck around and he was in the army, so we get decent benefits and all that and I've been lucky enough to be a stay at home mother until recently. I never have help from anyone. I have literally been out 3 times since my son was born over 2 years ago. One of those times was with my mom and my sister because I hadnt seen them for weeks (my kids and husband and i live 9 hours away from them). One of the times was when I went out with friends I hadnt seen for 8 years(I was born in a different country anf moved to Canada when i was 11). And the other time was weddinh dress shopping with my sister. all 3 of those times, their dad took care of them. Like i said i am extremely licky to have my childrens father around. most teenage mothers do not. I have to take online university becsuse of not finishing high school and not having child care. having a baby at 16 may sound fun, but for the first 6 months of my sons life, his father was gone. you have bo idea what tired is until you become a mother. waking up every 10 minutes and then finally givig up and sleeping with a baby on your chest is not fun. changing diapers when you can hardly keep your eyes open sucks. not having friends becauee they dont understand that you cant just dump your baby and go have fun every weeked is tough. teething babies that scream and puke everywhere for 3 weeks before their tooth finally comes through is not only annoying and gross, but its heart breaking seeing yout baby in so much pain and notbbeing able to fix it sucks. spending money you dont have because your child needs formula or clothes or diapers, is terrible when you know you need to be saving for a college fund for him. really, i would not change my babies for the world, but if i had the chance, i would definitely like to he more prepared financially and maybe spend a little more time living my life for myself. go be a teenager and THEN have kids. go get an education before you consider it. go flaunt your body at the beach before its destroyed and covered in stretch marks. set up a college fund before you have a naby and find a good guy who will be an amazing father. goodluck!iving up and sleepog b

Answer 2

It is an understandable desire.



Part of being an adult is choosing what is good for you even when it isn't what you want most right now, especially when you wiull be raising that choice for the next 20 years.



Your child needs an adult as a parent. 16 year olds who are having kids are not doing well, and their kids don't do well in life. Finish your education and bring your child into your adult life. Don't bring another child for your parents to raise like your younger sister. I know, you think you'll take care of the child.

Answer 3

It is so normal, don't feel that it's wrong, because it's natural. I was the same at your age, it's a mother instinct females have. I did end up getting pregnant at 17, but had a stillbirth. Not saying that will happen to you, but I understand your want for a baby. It isn't wrong, and it isn't anyone's place to tell you what to do. But it is a phase, I got over the phase at around 17. My pregnancy was an accident.



Take care.

Answer 4

It's not wrong to 'want' something. But it would be very very wrong to actually HAVE a baby. It would be selfish (you'd be bringing a child into the world to live a life of poverty, raised by an uneducated, high school drop-out mother), and you would destory your own life as well.



Mature people think about the future results of their actions. And if you are not mature, you have no business being a mother.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with wanting a baby. There is a problem with acting on it. Late teens and early twenties are the funniest part of life. Don't ruin it by having a baby. Wait until you have a partner to share in the responsibilities.

Answer 6

You need to be able to support yourself and your child before having a baby. I don't think you can do that at 16. Stay in school and learn some job skills before getting pregnant.

Answer 7

wanting and having are to different things.



You can want one, but you DEFIANTLY shouldn't have one.



Your to young, in school, no job, no place to live!



just because people seem to be doing well does not mean they are, everything is different behind closed doors.

Enjoy being 16, it was a GREAT year for me, i hope its just as good for you :)

Answer 8

It's not wrong try to focus on school and without family support having a kid is way to much work

Answer 9

i would like one of my own and im 16 buttt dont want to drop out of high school and take care of him/her



but if you concide having one id like to make it :)