Women I love or mother of my child?

Question

Last year the relationship between me and the mother of my 2 year old son and she asked me to leave. We had been together for nine years. After 5 months apart I met another women, with whom I have fallen in love with. She has her own son. I see my son 2 times a week and he usually stays one night a week. The problem is I feel so guilty spending more time with my girlfriends son than my own. Ny ex has also made it clear she wants me back. Its given me such a dilemma. On one hand I love my girlfriend so much. On the other Im not sure if I can go on playing happy families with my adopted family.

Answer 1

A passionate, loving person can not possibly marry or even be intimate with everyone they love. But as you've noticed, your children are yours forever and divided loyalties there can tear you apart just as long. To be happy, you're going to have to go back to your 9-year relationship. But please, find out what went wrong. And if it was just post partum blues, make it clear that you are not leaving again. Ever. However, each of you may want to stake out some private space that you can go to. People always need their own personal cooldown space.

Answer 2

It depends whether you still love your ex or not..



If you get back with your ex and then you seperate again in a year or so when it doesnt work for the same reasons this will cause more disruption in your childs life, and more confusion.



However if you think it can work, and are prepared to leave your girlfriend (without going back to her when it gets hard with your ex) then give it a go!



You should really consider who you love and want to be with. If you do something solely for the purpose of spending time with your son you will probably end up hurting him more in the future if you leave again!



Good Luck

Answer 3

sounds like you dont care about anyone and you jumped into another relationship without officially finishing the other, neither relationship can work because you love them both and this how it will play out . You will loose your baby mama first then she will make it more difficult to see your son, the other lady will be by your side not knowing the whole story then one day she will see you still love you baby mama the end

Answer 4

It can work or function with all parties involved clear of their roles and responsibilities, so sad but u can't just switch it on and off like leave, I want you back etc it has already happened scenario; you get back with your ex, lose a woman you love, gain a bitter ex who is throwing everything up in ur face any sign of trouble.... Then she aka you to leave, it's more about the stability of the kids so do consider that

Answer 5

Go with the new woman. Your previous relationship ended for a reason.

Answer 6

great lady