My friend had a baby and she is 16... and I now know why I DISLIKE teen moms..?

Heather(:

2010-05-29 20:06:05 UTC

Wow.

Yet, you think having "Future MILF" as your screen name denotes you some kind of respect when you trash on teenage mothers working their a****s off to thrive.

What makes you deserve a baby any more than anyone else?

It definitely is NOT your maturity.

Oh, and putting a baby in the same category as a laptop(something you wanted really badly) is the thinking of a twelve year old, I feel for your future child, honestly, I do.

Way to go.

I really hope you're only trolling.

2016-06-03 06:50:31 UTC

I highly doubt a TV show is making a bunch of teenagers go "Oh hey! Look at that, a teenaged mom on TV! I'm gonna go have a baby now! That looks AWESOME!" Besides, there are plenty of horror stories about childbirth and young mothers floating around all over the place to counteract that. As for the question of why this generation wants to start their lives early, my opinion is because that's how things WERE up until a generation or two ago. My grandmother was married and had a child before 21. And at the time it wasn't unusual. My mother didn't marry until 29 and had me at 30. So it's not surprising there's still that urge to be married by 20 and start having kids. There's a biological urge to have children then. And honestly, a 18-20-something year old will sit there and want these things, look to their future and see more school, low paying jobs, if any jobs at all, and get frustrated. Especially women who see all these things about women in their 40s panicking about their biological clocks and desperately wanting kids. No woman wants to be THAT woman. So women start worrying about that earlier.

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2010-05-26 21:32:08 UTC

Are you serious?

IMO, it's not okay for your friend to have a baby at sixteen. The good thing is that she is finishing high school and working. There are those who have kids when they shouldn't and expect others to take care of them and their children.

Why do you deserve to have a kid right now? You're 19 years old. I'm almost 21 and I don't think i'll be having kids for at least another 3-4 years.

Hun, you do not need a kid at your age, and if you're anything like how you appear online you definitely aren't ready for one right now. I'm glad you're in college, that's good. Finish school, get a job, meet a guy who you and him care for each other and support each other. Then you can even START to think about having a kid.

I'm so sick of kids and/or adults having kids when they're not financially or emotionally ready. Kids are expensive. And hard work. They shouldn't be brought into an environment with no money, no family, structure, etc. Please, get your life figured out and secured before you have a kid.

When you become a mom, you can't act like an early twenties woman. You have to act like a MOM. This means not a lot of partying, dating, fooling around. Your kid comes first. Let yourself experience your wild college days before having a kid. You'll only end up regretting it and you'll party while your toddler sits at home with a babysitter every weekend. I've seen this happen too many times.

Yeah, college is a pain. But what did you expect? It's school. The first two years suck because you're taking the same classes as high school. Wait until you can take classes that go with the career you want. Just rough through it and i'm sure it'll pay off in the end.

Just please, think about your future children and don't have them until you're ready in every sense of the word. It's not a bad thing to wait. If you like kids so much, get a job at a daycare and/or babysit for your friend if you ever get back to liking her.

cheerleader-me me

2010-05-27 14:58:07 UTC

Your spoiled I bet your the type that ask for stuff then after about a week your tired of it. Your very selfish and trust me a baby is not all that great. Your jealous of your friend but thats all her family expected from her. You on the other hand your family knows you are going places in life so they expect greatness which you should be proud of. As a matter of fact you should be proud that your not knocked up and can afford to got to college.

2010-05-27 05:59:53 UTC

What makes you think you deserve a baby more than that 16 year old? At least she is doing something with her life and working to support her child AND finishing high school unlike so many teenagers who pass the kid off onto their parents to raise so they can have a "social life" after the child is born or who drop out of high school upon getting pregnant. You need to grow up first before you have kids of your own. It is stupid to have a child when you have no financial means or a degree under your belt to support a child. I feel sorry for any man that hooks up with you. You sound immature and selfish. Grow up, graduate college and then think about having kids. Do you realize how hard it is to have a kid in college or in middle school or high school? It's not an easy life. I'm grateful to Allah (Subhanna wa Ta'ala) for not letting me get pregnant during the first 2 years of our marriage because it would have been impossible for my husband to study and he probably would have been forced to quit school and go home to support a child. If you only went to college to sleep around and meet "hot" guys then you are in college for all the wrong reasons.

2010-05-26 20:54:58 UTC

She does deserve credit. Alot of teen moms drop out of school or quit their jobs because they can't find someone to take care of the baby while they're at one or the other. You just sound flat out jealous. Your time will come, but I feel bad if you raise your future kids to think like you.

Loren

2010-05-26 21:18:35 UTC

Do you even realize how stupid and immature you really are?

You ask questions about masturbation and posting them on the internet and feeling guilty, about how you hate teen mothers, about how is all you want is a baby but no boyfriend, or how you want a baby but want to tell your parents you were raped so they will not get upset....You are a true idiot!

Hailey JR

2010-05-30 06:31:18 UTC

u r kidding, aren't u?

please tell me u r kidding... i'm losing confidence in all the human being with people like u!

and i'm a teen mom, too, so if u wanna be jealous, just do it!

K.C.A

2010-05-26 21:07:33 UTC

You should grow up and concentrate on college then having a baby in a few years.

Jaesuk K

2010-05-26 20:53:05 UTC

everything happens for a reason... your mom bought you a laptop later because she was be precacious and wanted to gaurantee your safety and didn't want you to become a teen mom too... she is a more caring mom... she is responsible... she didn't let what happened to your friend happen to you... and she taught you in straight manner... you are going for success in life... anyway back on topic i don't see a reason why you should neccessarily feel anything, because she is just another human being... when you get older and times get tough, its not about them that you have to care about, it is more of you and your real family... your friend has a child so she already knows this... its time you care more for yourself... you can still care for your friends, just care for the more responsible, the ones you can always look to and see their face =)

i hope i helped...

Mama J

2010-05-26 20:53:04 UTC

I say this to you again, WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU? You're such a spoiled immature brat and you have no idea what having a baby involves. You're such a ******* idiot. YOU DON'T NEED TO HAVE A BABY!

***You don't DESERVE anything.

2010-05-27 05:31:21 UTC

I agree - your friend shouldn't get any credit for becoming a teenage parent. You managed not to get pregnant, and are going to college - THAT is responsible.

Well done, and I'm sure you'll have babies when the time is right.

2010-05-26 20:50:30 UTC

Judging from your screename, you're not exactly one to talk about morals and values.

2010-05-26 20:49:59 UTC

you sound so selfish and self centred.. Im surprised you have friends..