Is 21 too young to have first baby?

Question

My husband will be 24!
He is in the military and we are completely comfortable with our lives right now, and want to wait about another eight months at least to get pregnant. Right now I am almost 20 and he is almost 23.

We have been married now for a little over a year, and together for over four years.
I am also in school, and really want to have a baby while in school because my scheduleing is great....I only go for two days a week, and work about 15-20 hours a week four nights per week!!

PLUS...I have all my summers off!!

Answer 1

Sounds like you have a good solid plan. I hope it works out for you!! Good Luck!!

Answer 2

You know what I am 21 and my husband is 24 at the end of this year and I am pregnant. I was in college, but I am having to take fall off so that I can have the baby. I have been married two years as of June 17, 2007. I say go for it if you want too. I am doing it and I am sure you can too.

Answer 3

Some will say you are too young, but just as long as you are prepared (well, you can't possibly be fully prepared, but financially and time-wise.) My husband is 27 and I am 21 and we had our daughter nine months ago. I understand what you are going through. Make sure that you both understand the commitment you are making, and otherwise have good luck getting pregnant. Eat really well and start taking prenatal vitamins while you are trying to get pregnant to make sure your body is in optimal health. Exercise, exercise, exercise, it will make your pregnancy, labor, and delivery much more comfortable. If you want to do what is best for the little one, look into natural birth. Good luck and congrats!!

Answer 4

Wait...wait....and wait longer. I am 25 and am a single parent. I was in the military and my marriage got ruined. Not saying this will happen to you. But my biggest thing is that I have a five year old that is a blessing but I think living the twenties with your husband is very important to do that alone. Have fun while your young! Its only one time in your life that you are this young. A baby can wait. You have your whole life!!!!! Just my opinion and by the way I'm a single father.

Answer 5

Hey there congrats on the marriage, and the fab husband. I just want to say that i think all couples should wait at least two years after marriage so taht they can enjoy each other. I mean really..Also, if he is not even around, it's not an easy thing raising a baby all by yourself. There's no rush, first completely discover your relationship then think about having babies

Answer 6

I got pregnant while my husband and I were in the Navy and making decent money.

I was 20.

Emotionally, mentally and financially I was ready but I was NOT ready when he had to deploy and left me at home alone with a baby! I was lonely as hell and I had this 1 yr old so I couldn't just pick up and go out with friends whenever I wanted. All I could do was talk to my hubby on the phone at night. It sucked....

Something to think about!



Oh! I totally agree with the guy above me too! My husband and I got pregnant too fast! what I wouldn't give to have a year or two alone with him now.....

Answer 7

I thought for a while there was an age or a time when you should do things, but now I'm realizing that times are different for everyone. it sounds like you really have your head on your shoulders- more so than some 30 yr olds. I say go ahead and plan a pregnancy! Good luck.

Answer 8

As long as you are happily married and your husband and you have talked through this and you both feel that you are ready. If everything is going well, money wise, then I don't see why you are too young.

If you're ready, then you're ready. I just hope that you are both agreeing with each other on this matter.

I do hope everything will go well between you and your husband but if you have any doubts then I would suggest just keep talking with your husband about it and when you feel the time is ready let him know and I definitely suggest praying it will definitely help you through any struggles you may encounter on your journey through parenthood. my best wishes for you and your husband.

Answer 9

IT TRULY SOUNDS LIKE YOU WOULD PROVIDE A GREAT HOME FOR THIS BABY. I DON'T EVEN THINK THAT'S AN ISSUE AT THIS POINT. I JUST THINK THAT AT THE AGE YOU ARE YOU SHOULD WAIT AND ENJOY YOUR TWENTIES. I WAS 20 WHEN I HAD MY DAUGHTER AND I LOVE HER TO DEATH AND DON'T REGRET HER AT ALL. BUT THERE ARE TIMES WHERE I DO WISH I COULD JUST GET UP AND GO OUT WHENEVER I PLEASE LIKE ANYONE IN THEIR TWENTIES WOULD. HAVING A BABY DOESN'T GIVE YOU THAT OPTION.I HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT FINDING A BABYSITTER AND THEN I CAN'T FULLY ENJOY MYSELF BECAUSE LIKE ANY MOM I'M THINKING AND WORRYING ABOUT MY DAUGHTER. I TOO AM FINANCIALLY SECURE AND GOING TO SCHOOL AND WORKING IT SEEMS EASY BUT IT TRULY ISN'T.

SOMETIMES I'LL COME HOME AND JUST WANNA SLEEP BUT I CAN'T I HAVE A BABY WHO NEEDS ME. NOT ONLY THAT I'M SURE YOU WANT TO BE THERE TO SEE HER FIRST STEP, SAY HER FIRST WORD WHAT IF YOUR AT SCHOOL. YOU'LL MISS IT LIKE I DID. WHEN YOUR BABY'S FIRST BORN YOU'LL WANT TO BE THERE FOR EVERYTHING. I DID. AND SOMETIMES FOUND MYSELF ALMOST IN TEARS BECAUSE I MISSED HER OR COULDN'T BE THERE WHENEVER I WANTED TO BE. MY DAUGHTER IS NOW THREE YEARS OLD AND CALLS ME ALL THE TIME WHEN I'M AT WORK OR SCHOOL AND TELLS ME "MOMMY I WANT YOU" AND I CAN'T BE THERE ALTHOUGH I WANT TO I HAVE TO PROVIDE FOR HER AND FINISH MY SCHOOLING TO GIVE HER THE LIFE SHE DESERVES

HAVING A BABY IS TRULY A BLESSING BUT ALSO A HUGE RESPONSIBILITY ONCE YOUR BABY'S THERE YOU CAN'T TURN BACK. AT THIS POINT I THINK YOU REALLY NEED TO GIVE THIS SOME SERIOUS THOUGHT AND IF THERE'S ANY QUESTION IN YOUR MIND I THINK YOU SHOULD WAIT. IF YOUR HUSBAND TRULY LOVES YOU HE'LL UNDERSTAND AND WAIT TOO. YOU GUYS HAVE YOUR WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF YOU FOR A BABY ENJOY YOUR MARRIAGE AND EACH OTHER FOR AWHILE AND THE FREEDOM. BABIES CAN WAIT. BUT IF YOU TRULY FEEL THAT YOUR READY AND WANT ONE GO FOR IT LIKE I SAID I'M SURE YOU'D PROVIDE A GREAT WORLD TO BRING THIS BABY INTO WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT. WHATEVER YOU CHOOSE YOU'LL DO FINE AND THE BEST OF LUCK TO YOU

Answer 10

No you both seem to have your life heading in the right places and i don't think a baby is a bad thing and your defintely not too young i had my son at 19 and we're all doing great. Good luck! you'll be fine

Answer 11

Hi there!



If you ask me...you sound ready mentally and emotionally. You marriage sounds good. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders...so nope 21 is not too young for you.



I am sure you also have your financial side in good shape and a home that can accommodate another family member.



Sounds perfectly fine to me...good luck!

Answer 12

it mostly depends on your life situation. Are you willing to get up in the middle of the night and feed your baby? Can you afford it. and do you have the space. those are things to think about and you should discuss this with your husband when the right time to have children is.

Answer 13

As long as you are willing to step up to the plate and be a parent then 21 is definately not to young.

Answer 14

im 21 and i have 2! my husband is in the military as well and its a great time to have kids. especially since you know you will have great prenatal care and he has a good steady job.

Answer 15

I think it's great!! I had my first baby at 21 and everything was fine. I think you have it all worked out already and it kinda sounds like you've already made a decision!!

Answer 16

nah..i don't think its too young...but look into everything..like financial matters and stuffs...iam 21 now and my hubbys 24...iam pregnant with my 1st baby...i am now married for 2yrs...and now my hubby has a very great job...good insurance and everything...iam schoolin too:) but not dis summer....and u both can wait for 8months..time flys gal!!! and then u can enjoy ur pregnancy!!!:)

Answer 17

I think it would be a good idea if you and your husband agree. Marriage is working together and he should be the one you are asking instead of us.

Answer 18

i dont think its too young. i had my son when i was 21 and my daughter when i was 22! good luck on what you decide is right for you!!

Answer 19

hahaha....that is so sweet honey...but having a baby and being a full time mom is more demanding...think about it./...and regarding the age....my mom had me when she was 18...so don't worry!!